Thanks so much to everyone for their supportive comments and emails on the first five resolutions! I can tell you that last night Parrish had to remind me to floss and I may have even grumbled a bit on my way to the bathroom, but I did it! Why is flossing so hard? It literally takes 2 minutes.
To start off the final list, I’m going to lay one on you that may shock you. I KNOW this is going to shock my family.
Number Six: make a baby plan
No, I’m not saying have a baby this year, or even next year, but I want to make a plan for having a baby. This may or may not surprise you, but I know my family will be. For years I wasn’t even sure if I wanted to have kids. I worked at a preschool in college and have always done a random assortment of babysitting. I love kids, but I was always very appreciative of then getting leave the kids and go home. It really wasn’t until after the wedding that I even came to the realization that I wanted to have kids. And in just the past month, I swear I can hear my ovaries ticking.
Number Seven: stop living for my days off
This resolution is a bit more abstract. I guess I just am sick of feeling like I’m “waiting” for my days off to do…anything. Between my full-time job, my morning part-time job, and this blog, I definitely fill the days. But I want to be more present in every day and not only plan activities for my days off. It will take more planning, seeing as how right now I sort of live my work days on auto-pilot, but I think it will be personal growth for me. So I’m willing to try. Any tips?
Number Eight: write more cards
For the past month, I have been writing Thank You cards for all the wonderful people who attended our wedding this past September. And contrary popular belief, I actually love writing thank you cards. So I want to start sending more cards, for birthdays, wedding anniversaries, etc.
Our guestbook for the wedding was a calendar, where everyone signed their name on their birthday. So I have about 125 birthdays of the people we care about the most. So I’m making this a priority….I need to buy some stamps.
Number Nine: finish my degree
This is resolution is way past it’s time, but is surrounded with a lot of pain for me. I don’t talk about it on the blog, but in October of 2006 I was finishing up my third to last semester in school. I was getting straight A’s, loving my classes, and felt really focused to make that final push to the end. In the past I had often gotten distracted mid-way through the semester, so I was pretty excited. But on the 24th of that month, a real tragedy occurred, and Parrish and I were witness to a murder/suicide in our neighborhood. We didn’t know the two people, it was just a horrible domestic dispute that ended up in our yard. So I was stepped back from school, and while my professors were understanding, I made the promise to finish my incompletes within the year.
However, post traumatic stress is a very strange thing. Even now, looking back, I don’t think I ever truly realized the effect it had on me. I couldn’t go to crowded places, loud noises made my heart race, and I lived in this warped reality where people could be shot all the time. This is not how I feel now. It honestly took time, and moving out of Wilmington for me to shake the bad ju-ju. But I’m happy to say that I have, and I’m ready to finish…5 years later.
So this summer I will start by taking online classes part-time. And I will continue part-time until I finish. I am going to finish!
Number Ten: Floss!
As stated previously, flossing is hard. But also good. So it’s going to happen…whether I like it or not. I would love any advice on how to make this change stick.
Number Eleven: keep my car clean
If you know me outside of this blog, then chances are, you have taken a peek inside my car. Then you have come to the realization that obviously a pack of rats made a filthy nest in my car, and I am clearly to busy to deal with it.
It’s a junk pile…and this is probably the cleanest part. So this past Sunday I cleaned out every nook and cranny, and I am absolutely committed to making this change. (I know my BIL Scott will be happy to know this) Two days out, and it’s amazing how much better having a clean car has made me feel. I feel in control and…well…clean. I can do this!
So there you have it! 11 changes to make in 2011; the first five and now the final six. I make it a point to never resolve anything too restricting, but instead to think of small changes I could make that could impact my daily life. And while a few of these will take effort and time, I feel confident about each and everyone.
Do you like making resolutions?